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Many individuals caught in the debt trap have lost the sense of what normal is. They come to believe that arguing about money is a valid way of relieving the guilt. Participants in a relationship feel they are taking action by accusing the other partner of financial neglect or irresponsibility. Sadly, this argumentative behavior robs a relationship of one of its best chances for success.
Most adults, if they give it some thought, know when they have been financially careless or have made bad decisions. They also know that it is highly likely that a financial crisis was created by the spending decisions of both parties. Only by working together can the problem be resolved and the wounds healed. Working together will usually eliminate the need to establish self-worth through unnecessary spending.
In families with financial stress, it is
common to find that family members are
secretive about their spending. Family
members find themselves taking sides
against each other and arguments are
common. This causes deeper problems
and makes building a unified family
difficult. The heads of the household need to realize that the only lasting solutions to these kinds of problems are worked out together with the entire family participating in the resolution. Every member of the family must be aware of the impact of his or her actions. Each must understand the objectives and be willing to help in creating solutions to reduce the family crisis. This will take patience and time, but it is doable.
Hey, I Make Money Too
We’ve already established that marriage and money don’t always get along well together. It can be even harder when both partners earn an
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There are people who have money and people who are rich.
—Coco Chanel